Bach Flower Remedies - Reaching the Strings of the Soul
I usually don't write about the B F remedies. Maybe because silently they've become a normal part of my life, or better yet a constant reference point. Using them when times call for them goes without saying.
The remedies offered me so many wonderful moments, I've experienced extraordinary effects and it is almost a shame that I've never written about it.
This is a short attempt to render the uniqueness and grace of their work in a a brief description of a recent happening.
Certain events made me feel restless, and the state of mind called for White Chestnut. Over time I've used it successfully for insomnia. And it worked beautifully this time too. In minutes my mind and soul calmed down. Those strings of the soul that play the accord of peace were touched and harmony flowed. Needless to say that I reacted better to the situation and as a bonus I found a piece of information that helped me and most of all rendered me the very big picture of what was going on. It was an incredible feeling where I was both amazed and grateful.
Whenever the strings of the mind and soul aren't reached and confusion or suffering arise, the remedies play the restoring chant, gracefully reaching our inner core and letting harmony flow in.
I am so grateful for having them I my life and grateful for the people who led me to them
The Bach Flower Remedies revitalize, restore the inner well being, help us in bringing to light the positive qualities we possess and in overcoming fears, depressions and states alike.
Wednesday, 13 April 2016
Bach Flower Remedies - Reaching the Strings of the Soul
Sunday, 21 February 2016
A Dangerous Age by Dane Rudhyar
Actually there is not one dangerous age. Danger arises when something deep within us becomes radically dissatisfied with things-as-they-are in our lives. This dissatisfaction may be caused by what we have done, or failed to accomplish —or by what others, closely surrounding us, have done or failed to do. Dissatisfaction can be glorified into what poets and mystics have often called divine discontent; but more often perhaps it should rather carry the name of devilish restlessness. But we must not forget that even the devil ultimately serves God, even if he does not know he does, and even if it takes a long time for you to find it out.
Saturn simply helps you to arrange your life the way you want it, even if you do not know precisely that you want it that way. Saturn gives you the cardboard and the glue, the cement and the wooden-forms to build your life-compartments. If you hand these Saturnian tools to someone else, because you are tired or you do not want to dirty your hands, that is not Saturn's fault.
.... is just that you do not dare to be transformed where you are. The transformation would most likely affect and renew as well, to a degree at least, those around you
The difficulty is still more acute if change would mean giving up whatever security you have, physical, financial or spiritual.
life's demand for a change of level.
Many times what oneself considers a happy life, a happy marriage, is only a well compartmentalized attempt at not facing the crucial issue. Then something happens to disturb the equilibrium of this highly varnished status quo; the mask of conjugal tranquility falls, or that of professional success collapses, to show under the masks a great depth of insecurity, immaturity and pain.
Opposition aspects ask of you that you become fully aware. In the situations we are now discussing what is necessary is to become fully aware of what one failed to do some fifteen years before or even thirty years before, at and after puberty. One must as well become aware, and even more so, of why one failed, or only partly succeeded. In a great many instances the masks could have been relinquished without tragedy or public show of excitement, if the meaning of the astrological "opposition aspects" of Saturn and Uranus to their natal places had been understood. Opposition aspects ask of you that you become fully aware. ￼In the situations we are now discussing what is necessary is to become fully aware of what one failed to do some fifteen years before or even thirty years before, at and after puberty. One must as well become aware, and even more so, of why one failed, or only partly succeeded.
This is why so many of the people who come to psychoanalysts and religious or lay counselors are around age forty or in their late forties. They sense, more or less acutely, the need to become more aware. What precipitates the crisis may be some innocent enough flirting, or a seemingly unexplainable breaking-down of mental and emotional barriers so carefully erected to keep away intruders.
It must be so, simply because life itself—and all spiritual progress—brings you essentially most upsetting experiences! They try to set you up. Your reluctance, your fears, your refusal lead to the upsets.
The evening was so lovely; he was so charming! I needed so much some nice, warm words that day!
. . ." Circumstances are blamed, more or less. But actually the occurrence has far deeper roots in a past, either long forgotten, or carefully interpreted away by the ego that was unable or unwilling to face fully life's demand for a change of level. "If you do not move upward," says life, "I shall strike you from your lower depths." The forgotten or despised root-energies of human nature can and do take their revenge, usually at the most inopportune moment, when the pain and anguish they inflict can be most acutely felt, most upsetting.
It must be so, simply because life itself—and all spiritual progress—brings you essentially most upsetting experiences! They try to set you up. Your reluctance, your fears, your refusal lead to the upsets. So, what occurs when Saturn opposes, around age forty-five, its natal place (that is, the type of order and stability which is individually your own) is practically always a result, direct or indirect, of what you did not do— or of what you allowed to become deviated—when you were around thirty and Saturn wasconjunct its natal place. The upset is "Uranian," but the urge to move "up" at thirty was really "Saturnian." It was the urge to be your Truth, to demonstrate effectively what you are as an individual—and not merely as a social type, or as the son or daughter of your parents. When the upset comes, what is there to be done? Essentially, you should welcome it as a sign that you are still really alive, or that you have not settled hopelessly into a rut, that you can still grow up. But to welcome an upset without fear, guilt, shame or emotional dramatics does not mean to rush blindly into the new path and the new direction outward it may present under most fascinating mirage-like forms!
"Cândva nu vom mai avea nevoie de cuvinte. Limbajul sufletului se înțelege peste tot în natură. Suntem ceea ce gândim (sănătoși, bolnavi, fericiți, nefericiți). Gândurile sunt coroană de spini sau de flori pe capul fiecăruia. Ele descarcă o anumită chimie în corp. Orice emoție negativă blochează celulele sistemului imunitar și ne lasă organismul fără apărare pentru câteva ore sau chiar ani. Stresul este moartea celulei. E drept că unele celule nervoase se refac printr-o gândire constructivă, optimistă, dar e nevoie de MUNCĂ personală. Orice boală trebuie tratată cu înțelegere, compasiune și nu cu revoltă, deoarece unele suferințe le primim ca lecții, iar altele au cauze spirituale (egoism, invidie, răzbunare, stres, frică etc).
Fără Dumnezeu nu există bucurie autentică, iar prezența Lui se simte la tot pasul. De la sufletele care ne apar în Calea ce-o avem de parcurs, până la natura care mângâie simțurile într-o doxologie nemărginită. Cea mai mare minune este să iubești toți oamenii. Și nu putem împărtăși celuilalt ceea ce nu suntem deja. Cred că nu ne lipsesc informațiile, ci experiențele. Viața nu este o formulă matematică general valabilă, ci trăire în Duh și în Adevăr.
În ființa lor toate lucrurile din lume sunt bune, întrebuințarea lor uneori este greșită. Tot ce există este bun și orice cădere aduce ceva folositor la lumină. Creștinismul și din păcat scoate virtute. Când iertăm, nu doar sufletul nostru se simte ușurat, ci mai ales sufletul celui pe care îl iertăm. Întoarce-te în tine de oriunde ai fi și primește-te, iartă-te. Viața se trăiește, nu se caută, nu se învață. Trăiește adevărul, bucuria și iubirea. Ele se află acolo unde ești. Liniștea nu este într-un loc, ci într-un mod de a fi. Sunt două zile în care nu mai putem face nimic: ieri și mâine. Prezentul este timpul mântuirii. Amânarea înseamnă niciodată. Un om valorează atât cât iubește. Restul e poveste.
Verbul meu este în inimă și pulverizează spre voi. E nevoie să înțelegem că nu am fost creați de Dumnezeu ca să suferim, ci ca să ne întâlnim cu El într-o poveste de iubire. Unică. În ochii tăi este soare când iubești. Iar ca să ajungi la fericire nu ai nevoie de hartă, ci de prezență, de tine."
Wednesday, 15 July 2015
With all the hype that neuroscientists and Silicon Valley engineers are getting these days, it’s easy to start thinking that your kiddo needs to be a star mathlete or a budding biologist to get ahead in tomorrow’s job market. Yes, it’s true that all children need a thorough grounding in science, technology, engineering, and math (STEM), in addition to reading and writing. After all, 20 years from now, the majority of job openings will likely be in STEM fields. And teachers, salespeople, and product designers alike will need to be STEM-savvy just to use the increasingly sophisticated tools of their trades, notes University of Missouri developmental psychologist David Geary, Ph.D.
Yet there’s another set of skills that experts say all kids will need to succeed, no matter what field they go into. “Almost every employer, in every occupation, prefers workers who know how to problem-solve, be creative, work collaboratively, and communicate well,” says Steven Paine, Ed.D., president of the educational advocacy group Partnership for 21st Century Skills.
Far from taking time away from your child’s current curriculum, these six skills can all be worked into other lessons — both in school and out. “It’s about how we teach, not what we teach. Kids need to learn deeper lessons by doing project-based work so that they don’t forget the facts after the test is over,” notes Paine.
Fortunately, you can hone those essential abilities through cool activities and games that make long car trips and rainy afternoons whiz by. Read on for inspired ideas that will ward off “I’m bored” blues — while boosting the skills that all 21st-century kids need:
Skill #1: Problem-Solving
To get ahead in a competitive world, your child will need to be able to think critically — to observe, analyze, and come up with smart solutions to complex dilemmas. It’s the quality kids need to write a persuasive ad campaign, say, or to fill out a new prescription for a senior on multiple medications.
“It means answering higher-level questions that require thought and exploration,” explains high school science teacher Jeff Charbonneau, of Zillah, WA, a 2013 Teacher of the Year. To get there, your child needs to learn to ask questions like “why?” and “what if?” and to think through all sides of an issue. Here are two ways you can encourage him:
Turn questions into projects. If your child asks “Why do I have so many freckles?” flip it around on him: “Why do you think you do?” (“Kids learn more from discovering answers on their own than having you explain things,” says Charbonneau.) Have your child come up with a couple of theories, then do some online research while you supervise. “Finally, ask him to explain what he’s discovered in his own words to help him process what he’s learned,” Charbonneau says.
Invent a superhero. If your child complains about being bored, point him toward the junk drawer. Suggest he sculpt his very own superhero from the stuff he finds, using modeling clay or glue to assemble it. To tap into his problem-solving prowess, tell him you have to be able to spot his hero’s special powers from the way he looks: For instance, Elastic Man might wear a rubber-band sash. That extra step will give your kid practice in mulling options and picking a strategy.
Skill #2: Playing Well With Others
The most successful companies know how to hire the best people and get them to work toward a common goal. That’s one reason teachers love classroom projects — they teach kids the value of teamwork. As they toil together, kids learn self-control (how not to melt down when classmates decide to take a different tack), diplomacy (how to urge on a slacker without name-calling), empathy (how to take a teammate’s feelings into account), and time-management (how to finish in the time frame). Leap ahead 20 years as your child slogs with colleagues to launch the first hack-proof credit card, and all those lessons come into play. Meanwhile, to raise a child who works well with others, your family could:
Host a bake-in. Cooking with siblings or playdate buddies not only sharpens math and reading skills but also boosts teamwork. After all, taking turns with the mixer (and sharing the beaters) is the first step toward learning cooperation. Cookies are always a hit, but older kids can get creative with ingredients and try whipping up an entire meal. If they have to toss their culinary masterpiece in the trash afterward, so be it — teaching kids to deal with failure is also important, and this is a low-stakes way to do it, says Charbonneau.
Shoot a flick. Making a movie helps kids channel their imaginations to create something fun while also negotiating who will do what. They can come up with the plot and script, act out the scenes themselves (or set them up with dolls or action figures), and delegate someone to snap pics with the smartphone. Then you can help them use theiMotion HD app (iTunes, free) or Lego Movie Maker (iTunes, free) to create cool time-lapse videos from the photos.
Skill #3: Smart Tech Reliance
Sure, you turn to your kid for help when you set up a new smartphone, but an ease with operating gadgets isn’t the same as understanding the best practices for using them. Digital natives must learn to judge the validity of the streams of information and to navigate social media.
It helps to consider digital media as you would food, says Michael Levine, Ph.D., of the Joan Ganz Cooney Center, a nonprofit that deals with educational media for kids. Empty calories (think Candy Crush) should be occasional treats, but allow healthy sites more freely. (One to try together: Code.org, which teaches kids easy ways to write the computer code that creates websites and apps.) Other ways to get them up to speed on all things media:
Become co-bloggers. Team up with your child to create a family blog (free at a site like Blogger.com), where you can post pics, news, and her latest artwork. Work with your kiddo to edit things down so relatives don’t get flooded with too much info — a valuable lesson for when she’s eventually writing PowerPoint reports. Bonus: Blogging also boosts writing chops.
Laugh at e-errors. Teach your kid to approach the web with a healthy dose of skepticism. Show her your iPhone’s silliest autocorrect errors and explain that computers can make similar mistakes when she looks to them for help with, say, spelling or translating. Or take an age-appropriate current event and see how the same story gets a different spin, depending on the site.
Skill #4: Thinking in 3-D
The ability to visualize objects — and the way they fit into a space — is what experts call spatial awareness. We use the skill every day when we merge our cars onto highways, for instance, or find our way around a new store.
Spatial awareness is second only to basic math as the building block for STEM learning because it teaches kids how to manipulate shapes in their head, says Vanderbilt University psychology professor David Lubinski, Ph.D. Boosting it pays off for all sorts of professionals, including architects, surgeons, and fashion designers. All need to imagine their end product as they work, whether it’s a new heart, a house, or a couture gown.
Cultivating the skill is especially helpful for girls, since the toys parents give boys — train sets, Lego kits — give them an edge in terms of thinking about how things fit together. Still, neither gender gets much training at school, says Lubinski. Thankfully, there are ways to get it in at home:
Encourage gaming. Video games tend to get a bad rap, but the ones that spur kids to make cities out of virtual blocks, like Minecraft, are great for building spatial skills. “It’s a blend of entertainment, engineering, creativity, and social media skills,” says Levine. “And it’s fun for older and younger siblings to play together.”
Cue the construction. A good way to teach the relationship between 3-D objects is by having kids decide whether a Lego piece or an ice-pop stick should go under or over another piece, or adjacent or perpendicular to it, when your child builds bridges or parking garages. Charbonneau asks his 7-year-old to build two towers and then make a zip line from string between them for an action figure to ride. “It’s a challenge to build a structure that can carry a heavy load,” he points out. To spur more elaborate buildings in the future, take a pic of your child’s creation when he’s finished.
Turn off the GPS
Maps are a one dimensional way to visualize the distance between two points, so keep an old-school one in the car, and you’ll be ready when your kid asks “Are we there yet?” Help him pinpoint where you’re headed and ask him to track your movement along the route, letting everyone know when you’re halfway there, three quarters of the way there, and about to arrive.
Skill #5: Communicating Clearly
Your child needs to say what he means — succinctly and diplomatically — whenever he explains ideas in class or argues for more privileges with you. And with higher-tech ways to communicate evolving, your grown-up kiddo will have to tap into this ability constantly. After all, he’ll be connected with coworkers and clients in real time almost nonstop — all around the world — and can’t afford to have anyone second-guess his intentions. How to help:
Follow the leader. Any activity that calls upon your child to listen to or give directions — even playing pretend — can help him become a great communicator. To give these skills a super-workout, try this: Slip on a blindfold and follow your child’s directions as you move through the room to pick up an object. Then switch, so your child gets the chance to practice both listening and describing the obstacles in the room.
Tell spellbinders. Story chains are a great way to spend a car ride or to keep the conversation going at mealtimes. Begin the story by creating a hero and setting. The person next to you adds more to the tale, and so on. Encourage everyone to contribute for a full 15 to 30 seconds. With practice, your kids will learn to really hear the storylines that come first, to layer their contributions onto those, and to tee up the next person with clever cliffhangers.
Skill #6: Out-of-The-Box Concepting
Creativity is the process of imagining what can be — the skill any boss requires, whether your adult kid is teaching a class full of fidgety second-graders or isolating the genes that trigger depression.
Tuesday, 14 April 2015
Familientherapeut Jesper Juul erklärt, warum es für ihre Entwicklung wichtig ist, dass Kinder sich gelegentlich fadisieren
Eine Leserin fragt:
Unser Sohn ist vier Jahre alt. Meistens ist er glücklich, lebendig und hat immer etwas zu tun. In der Kinderbetreuung macht er bei allem mit, und es fällt ihm leicht, Freundschaften zu knüpfen. Wenn wir ihn abholen, fragt er oft: "Was tun wir, wenn wir zu Hause sind?" Zuerst dachten wir, das wäre wundervoll, aber mittlerweile fühlen wir uns wie Entertainer, die sich ständig neue Beschäftigungen ausdenken müssen. Wenn wir einmal nichts finden, beschwert er sich und sagt, dass ihm langweilig ist. Es kommt mir vor, als habe er die Fähigkeit verloren, sich etwas auszudenken oder alleine zu spielen. Was können wir tun?
Jesper Juul antwortet:
Viele Institutionen, die Nachmittagsbetreuung, Sportcamps und auch die Medien sind voll von Animationsangeboten. Sie haben alle eines gemeinsam: Sie bieten Eltern Ideen und Strategien an, um Langeweile bei ihren Kindern zu vermeiden. Ich möchte eine Lanze für die Langeweile brechen.
Im Dezember bestreitet Jesper Juul mehrere Vorträge und Workshops in Österreich.
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Diese Serie entsteht in Kooperation mit Family Lab Österreich.
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Es geht mir nicht darum, Eltern zu kritisieren, die ihre Zeit mit ihren Kindern genießen, die Ferien und Wochenenden nutzen, um Museen zu besuchen, gemeinsam im Garten zu arbeiten, Fahrräder zu reparieren oder gemeinsam Sport zu treiben.
Ich wende mich an Eltern, die sich unter Druck gesetzt fühlen: diejenigen, die ständig darüber nachdenken, was sie mit den Kindern unternehmen könnten, und die sich schuldig fühlen, weil sie sich eigentlich lieber entspannen würden. Hier sind einige Ideen für diejenigen, die zusammenzucken, wenn sie ihre Kinder sagen hören: "Mir ist fad!"
Eltern und Kinder sind Konsumenten geworden. Das führt dazu, dass vielen Kindern langweilig wird, sobald die externe Stimulation fehlt. Es ist ihnen fad ohne Computerspiele, DVDs und Fernsehen. Auch Kindertagesstätten und Schulen setzen auf externe Stimulation. Wenn Kinder dem den ganzen Tag lang ausgesetzt sind, erhalten sie eine Überdosis davon.
Viele Eltern fühlen sich förmlich genötigt, diese inspirierenden Aktivitäten zu Hause fortzusetzen. Den Druck erzeugen dabei eigentlich die Kinder, denn sie wurden schlichtweg "stimulationssüchtig" gemacht. Ohne Anregung oder "Bespielung" haben sie regelrecht Entzugserscheinungen. Sie beschweren sich und fordern von den Eltern, unterhalten zu werden. Wenn die Eltern noch genügend Energie haben, werden sie mit den Kindern Dinge unternehmen. Diejenigen, die müde sind, geben den Kindern einen Stapel DVDs oder schicken sie auf ein Kindercamp, damit andere Menschen sie unterhalten.
Mein Vorschlag: Lassen Sie Ihre Kinder sich langweilen. Sie können das mit reinem Gewissen tun.
Die meisten Kinder erleben eine unangenehme innere Unruhe, wenn sie sich langweilen. Der Grund: Sie versuchen, eine Balance zu finden zwischen dem Konsumieren von externen Reizen und ihrer eigenen inneren Kreativität. Jüngere Kinder wissen, dass diese Unruhe oder Langeweile nicht einfach zu beruhigen ist.
Wenn Kinder sagen, dass ihnen langweilig ist, und Eltern dann sofort eine Idee anbieten, weisen die Kinder diese in den meisten Fällen umgehend zurück. Wenn Eltern einige wenige Minuten lang warten, werden sie aber feststellen, dass sich ihr Kind bereits in etwas vertieft hat.
Langeweile ist der Schlüssel zur inneren Balance - egal in welchem Alter. Diejenigen, die die Unruhe vorbeiziehen lassen, kommen in Kontakt mit ihrer Kreativität. Unsere Kreativität ist der Raum, in dem wir uns spüren, uns selbst kennenlernen, uns selbst ausdrücken und die Erfahrung von Selbstverwirklichung machen. Was sich noch vor einer Stunde wie eine unangenehme Stille anfühlte, erzeugt plötzlich inneren Frieden und wird zur emotionalen Aufladestation.
Für Kinder ist es wichtig, ihrer inneren Kreativität zu folgen. Es macht sie unabhängig von äußerer Anerkennung und Zustimmung. Kreativität ist zentral, um Selbstwert zu entwickeln. Kinder, die sich gelegentlich langweilen, werden eine größere innere Ruhe spüren, die ihre soziale Kompetenz fördert.
Wenn Ihr Kind zu Ihnen kommt und sagt: "Mir ist sooo langweilig", dann umarmen sie es und sagen: "Herzlichen Glückwunsch, mein Freund! Es interessiert mich, zu sehen, was du jetzt tust." Sie können das mit einem absolut reinen Gewissen sagen. Vielleicht ist Ihr Kind kurz irritiert, aber Sie geben ihm damit eine wertvolle Gelegenheit, mit seinen inneren Stimuli in Kontakt zu kommen, anstatt sich auf die äußeren zu verlassen.
Noch besser wäre es, wenn sie sich gemeinsam langweilen: Sie werden bemerken, dass Sie plötzlich über Dinge sprechen und sich gegenseitig erzählen, die nur auftauchen, wenn der "Unterhaltungsmodus" ausgeschaltet ist und Sie die innere Unruhe überwunden haben. Das ist der Punkt, an dem echte Nähe möglich wird. Sie können das auch mit Ihrem Partner ausprobieren.
Wir können uns aus unserer Konsumentenrolle nicht befreien. Aber wir können sie steuern und unseren Kindern dabei helfen herauszufinden, wie ihnen das selbst gelingt. (Jesper Juul, derStandard.at, 11.11.2012)
Jesper Juul, geboren 1948 in Dänemark, ist Lehrer, Gruppen- und Familientherapeut, Konfliktberater und Buchautor. Er studierte Geschichte, Religionspädagogik und europäische Geistesgeschichte. Statt die Lehrerlaufbahn einzuschlagen, nahm er eine Stelle als Heimerzieher und später als Sozialarbeiter an und ließ sich zum Familientherapeuten ausbilden. Er ist Begründer des Family Lab.
Friday, 10 April 2015
One should always be drunk. That’s the great thing, the only question. Not to feel the horrible burden of Time weighing on your shoulders and bowing you to the earth, you should be drunk without respite.
“Get Drunk.” After his expulsion from the Lycée Louis-le-Grand for lack of discipline in 1839, Baudelaire in his late teens embarked upon a literary life in the Latin Quarter and soon contracted syphilis—most likely from a prostitute nicknamed Squint-Eyed Sarah, whom he immortalized in his early verse. In 1848 he began translating Edgar Allan Poe, whose life and works he found “stamped with an undeniable seal of melancholy,” and in 1860, he translated some of the opium writings of Thomas De Quincey. Baudelaire published The Flowers of Evil in 1857 and was promptly tried for public indecency.
Drunk with what? With wine, with poetry, or with virtue, as you please. But get drunk.
And if sometimes you should happen to awake, on the stairs of a palace, on the green grass of a ditch, in the dreary solitude of your own room, and find that your drunkenness is ebbing or has vanished, ask the wind and the wave, ask star, bird, or clock, ask everything that flies, everything that moans, everything that flows, everything that sings, everything that speaks, ask them the time; and the wind, the wave, the star, the bird, and the clock will all reply, “It is Time to get drunk! If you are not to be the martyred slaves of Time, be perpetually drunk! With wine, with poetry, or with virtue, as you please.”
© 1947, New Directions Publishing Corporation. Used with permission of New Directions Publishing Corp.